hmm... The jollyness of valentine is wearing off from some people's faces already (most likely 'cos they didn't have a val)..... but I know someone that will find it difficult to forget about it...... yeah as you may wonder.... he had such a beautiful time..... but more importantly... the dinner ran into hundred of pounds ........ wao..... but hold it...cos in a few days.... its gonna be more than worth it..... he's a friend by the way..... (You better become friends with me..... we're rich)..... lol....
LOVE
It is a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person
Some people call it a feeling…even though you can’t actually feel it with your hands… something in you has been programmed to be receptive to the transmission of love radars.
A short cut to the importance of “love” is … If you love somebody, you would not want to hurt him/her in any way. Bitching behind their back will not happen, you wouldn’t steal from them (girlfriend/boyfriend inclusive)… ultimately you will have them in mind and their welfare will be a priority.
Imagine if this love now extends to more than one person and someone out their looks after you as well… then the world will be a better place… but as we know this is not the case in reality.
Hatred has taken a big chunk of our hearts… Its not that we don’t love anymore… we still do, but our love is now priced…. The highest paying recipient receives the most of it.
To crown it all, it’s not just the sellers that put a price on their love… even the buyers now place a demand on the value of what they are paying for.
An example will simplify the complexity of my concern. I believe that love is something that we all have and are all ready to share. I also believe that we have an abundance of this love in that (all other things being equal) we can love our siblings without conflict, love all our friends without telling one that our love has run out and love our parents in great measures.
This analysis breaks down when it comes to your spouse but that is because of the constraints put by morality. (Laughs)
In our today world, that abundance of love is very short in supply, and it’s not because the love wells are running dry………we are getting greedier and hoarding the love we have.
In our ignorance and greediness, we have done away with the school of thought that love is diverse and we have adopted a perverted style of One love for all…… and so because there is one love for all, scarcity sets in……
Now, before any misunderstanding erupts… opportunity cost is the first thing that comes to mind…… and we’re faced with choices that should never have been…… “Choosing between your parents and your siblings”… “Choosing between your siblings and your friends”… “Between your spouse and your parents”…… “or between your girlfriend and the rest of your family”……
For some of us… we are just ignorant and the society we live in helps our ignorance… One thing we must understand is …… you may not want some people in your life…… but never let it be because the love you have cannot go round.
We don’t have to make these horrible choices…… (all things being equal)…… your family were the first set of people you knew…… your siblings knew you because your parents decided to have you… you knew you friends because someone looked after them and ensured that they stayed alive… the friendly advise (as bad or as good they may have been ) helped you make some decisions…… and these friends may have even contributed to your finding the love of your life… or the career of your dreams…… so why would you …… all of a sudden decide that the love that their contributions have grown into cannot go around.
Don’t get me wrong, I know you can’t carry everybody along…… but never let anything buy your love out…
The people in your lives are there for different reasons and to help in different ways…… Learn to love and appreciate them for who they are.
And for you out there who wants another person to yourself…… you can’t be the dad, the mum, the boyfriend, the husband, the friend e.t.c. all alone…… you’ll die young…… So…… wise up… Love has different faces…… learn to express them
Let’s all make the world a better place……
Wednesday, February 21, 2007
Thursday, February 15, 2007
DON'T BE SHY
Happy Valentine to ya'll... Its another day for me (like every other day) to express my love to the people around me.
This is for all you's out there that find it hard to express yourself..... It may not be because you are shy, it could just be a case of mixed feeling.... or the message from him/her is not clear enough for you to step forward and break the silence.
I've been in that positon before..... I wasn't sure of the message but I was sure of the beauty... so what do I do?....well, what I did was simple... I wrote it out in this well put together piece that expresses my confusion but affirms my observation......
I see something
As brave as I am,
a girl’s eyes can be difficult to look at
But yours is an anomaly,
Cos every time I look, I want to look again
I know that I know there’s something in those eyes
Is it hatred, dirt, trouble, fear or is it peace, joy, hope, care and love?
What it is, is a mystery waiting to be unravelled
But these I physically see, a set of hypnotising eyes
fenced with a fine coat of mascara,
carefully streamlined along its perfectly curved edges
giving the eye lashes an independent stand-a-lone beauty
each pointing towards heaven
Every time I look at them, I look up
expecting to see something
but what, I don’t know.
I think credence should be given to me for seeing something.... albeit I don't understand it....
If you are like me, seeing is the first step.... though you may not understand it, describe what you see (not what you feel)... the answer might just lie in your description....
guess what, when I gave this piece to the person in concern... the reaction I got gave me the answer to my confusion .... (It works)
Happy Valentine.
Sunday, February 11, 2007
Who is standing next to you
Who is standing next to you?
The last time you left home, how many people did you say hi to? I mean sincerely, how many people are you interested in knowing what they are going through and how you can be of help? Majority of us, I noticed have become longsighted that we fail to see the very people that are next to us and around us. We talk about best friends that live out of town, in another country, in another continent; in fact, the only place you don’t have a friend is in your neighbourhood.
A while ago, I made a new friend whom I’ll call P. When ever I talk to my friend P, somehow I always end up boasting about my other friends that knows me in and out, friends that can die for me, and friends that I think were not born but dropped from heaven. Over time, I could sense a tint of uneasiness in P’s voice simply because I did not give P the chance to be my friend or express herself and walk into my friend’s hall of fame list. Realising my mistake, I tried telling P how much she meant to me but like any one of us, P did not believe me, especially when P thinks about my other supposedly perfect friends. One day, I said to P, listen:
“I have friends that can leave everything for me and even die for me (guess that’s not very true) but even if it were true, these friends are far away that I would have been long dead before they get to know that I’m in trouble. That’s why you matter to me, you can either be by my side when I’m in trouble, and if you can’t help, you can be the link between me and the people that can help. You can be my chance of survival.”
Recently, I fell seriously ill and it was not a palatable experience. In this trying time, there was a friend that physically stood by me and as you can guess…. It was my friend P.
What am I saying?, the day you fall down, you can call your best friends thousands of miles away telling them of your predicament, and you know what, the best he/she can do is to say “get up”. But the person standing next to you can give a helping hand and pull you to your feet.
My question is…. Who is standing next to you?
Its time you embrace your location and invest in relationships that will make your stay worthwhile.
The last time you left home, how many people did you say hi to? I mean sincerely, how many people are you interested in knowing what they are going through and how you can be of help? Majority of us, I noticed have become longsighted that we fail to see the very people that are next to us and around us. We talk about best friends that live out of town, in another country, in another continent; in fact, the only place you don’t have a friend is in your neighbourhood.
A while ago, I made a new friend whom I’ll call P. When ever I talk to my friend P, somehow I always end up boasting about my other friends that knows me in and out, friends that can die for me, and friends that I think were not born but dropped from heaven. Over time, I could sense a tint of uneasiness in P’s voice simply because I did not give P the chance to be my friend or express herself and walk into my friend’s hall of fame list. Realising my mistake, I tried telling P how much she meant to me but like any one of us, P did not believe me, especially when P thinks about my other supposedly perfect friends. One day, I said to P, listen:
“I have friends that can leave everything for me and even die for me (guess that’s not very true) but even if it were true, these friends are far away that I would have been long dead before they get to know that I’m in trouble. That’s why you matter to me, you can either be by my side when I’m in trouble, and if you can’t help, you can be the link between me and the people that can help. You can be my chance of survival.”
Recently, I fell seriously ill and it was not a palatable experience. In this trying time, there was a friend that physically stood by me and as you can guess…. It was my friend P.
What am I saying?, the day you fall down, you can call your best friends thousands of miles away telling them of your predicament, and you know what, the best he/she can do is to say “get up”. But the person standing next to you can give a helping hand and pull you to your feet.
My question is…. Who is standing next to you?
Its time you embrace your location and invest in relationships that will make your stay worthwhile.
Thursday, February 01, 2007
HAPPY NEW MONTH
Happy new month to you all. January’s obituary has been announced and a new month is birthed.
Extreme makeover (heart edition) is our stop for this month and I am very very excited about it.
As you might as well be aware, a makeover is not the creation of something new, it is working with something that already exists….in this case, your heart.
The heart plays a major role, not just in keeping us physically alive, but also in making us come to terms with living in this life.
The choices you make, decisions you take, and who you are is a reflection of what is resident in your heart. In fact, your outlook in life, is a result of zooming in into your heart.
When people go through physical transformation (cosmetic surgery), they almost always work with a psychiatrist to prepare and update the content of their heart to accommodate their new look. This is simply because you can only work from inside out. Doing it the other way round can end in catastrophe.
In the course of this series, we will not deviate from the overriding theme for the month of love (February). Hence, love (an important element) will feature as part of this makeover. Your relationship with people is another point of talk. We do not leave in an isolated world, so we need the right mix to stay sane and give the heart the look that makes whoever sees say whaoo…….
Extreme makeover (heart edition) is our stop for this month and I am very very excited about it.
As you might as well be aware, a makeover is not the creation of something new, it is working with something that already exists….in this case, your heart.
The heart plays a major role, not just in keeping us physically alive, but also in making us come to terms with living in this life.
The choices you make, decisions you take, and who you are is a reflection of what is resident in your heart. In fact, your outlook in life, is a result of zooming in into your heart.
When people go through physical transformation (cosmetic surgery), they almost always work with a psychiatrist to prepare and update the content of their heart to accommodate their new look. This is simply because you can only work from inside out. Doing it the other way round can end in catastrophe.
In the course of this series, we will not deviate from the overriding theme for the month of love (February). Hence, love (an important element) will feature as part of this makeover. Your relationship with people is another point of talk. We do not leave in an isolated world, so we need the right mix to stay sane and give the heart the look that makes whoever sees say whaoo…….
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