FATHERHOOD

FATHERHOOD

“My father has many children” can be a painful thing to say if your share of inheritance is under fire.
The role of the father in the society is increasingly terrorised by the extremists that lies in the fathers to be.
Not long ago was the passion evident in fathers to see their sons and daughters grow and excel in their chosen careers and path in life. This also to be noted is a far cry from the days of imposition, where fathers supposedly chart out their children’s life for them. These kids are treated like machines built to receive orders from their physical creator and disobedience can have grave consequences. This power hold even sometimes results in fathers destroying these machines (their children) and a good name has been developed in the English language to define this act…. “Honour Killing”…. When a father kills a child because the child is not obeying or complying to the father’s wishes. (Don’t be fooled by the positive name though… if the father gets caught, he’ll end up in jail…. No doubt about that)

However, a more subtle but predominant act is an “honour killing” of the mind. Where the father still kills the child, though the child is still alive …. We say…dead children walking”.

Nowadays, we’ve been transported from the icy cold Antarctica to the burning hot deserts in terms of parenting and “father care”.
The new era as expected is service oriented, technologically advanced with an increased sense of awareness that tends to lead to productivity. In fact masculine superheroes have been resurrected to cement the cracks in the parenting desert. Fathers for Justice or fathers for money, which ever name they choose to answer to have recently been in our faces on TV. I once thought it as a new programme transmitted from the roof of Westminster until Trevor explains the mystery correspondent as a fighter doing his own part in a division of labour agenda.

With any era, division of labour s always a constant and effective choice in job allocation for so many reasons such as ease of working, enhanced security and it also gives room for expertise to mention a few. It is not surprising then, that the same has been employed in the “father care” firm. The potency of division of labour cannot be underestimated, but will it produce results? ...yes it will produce results… good or bad ones? ....hhhhmmm
How does it work?

Firstly, a potential father hooks up with a potential mother, only for her to get pregnant in most cases by the same man or sometimes by another man. Considering also that an average relationship n the UK lasts only a few years, the child is barely old enough before another man takes the responsibility of being a step dad. In the long run, the child grows with so many fathers or with no fathers at all depending on the effectiveness of how the “jobs” (responsibilities) were allocated by the circumstances.
The zenith of this hierarchy reaches a boiling point when a mystery father, in order to find his look alike (probably not facially but intellectually or entrepreneur wise) gathers up children that are not his, sets them a on a wide range of tasks and eventually picks his favourite, offering him or her a good share of his fortune…. another man’s child.
(Apprentice viewers……you feel me?)

The father’s day as innocent as it is does not know the difficulties being faced by the descendants of the older generations (meaning us) in choosing our fathers. Some of us embrace our circumstances and acknowledge all these fathers, some of us detest what our lives have turned into because there were too many fathers…. Some of us didn’t get a chance to have one let alone many fathers. I stand to tell you…. These are illusions that tend to remind you of the imperfections in life …… but viewed closely, the truth is “we all have many fathers” be it mentors, coaches, guardians, spiritual fathers or even older friends.

So it’s high time you stopped screaming because of how your life has turned out and start swimming in these fatherly loves.

Much more fulfilling is the love that comes from our father, God, our creator.

HAPPY FATHER’S DAY



Sometime soon, I’ll write on the confusion that men of our generation are facing when it comes to identity….It’s not surprising that men are confused so much that they are starting to think about ways of getting pregnant…..obviously that is after getting married to each other.
Why all these? .... I ask….the answer I get is

“We (the men) have to help out…. In every way”